When you step into the world of crochet, you expect it to be a haven—a place where artistry, creativity, and community flourish. You envision a culture that nurtures and uplifts, where shared experiences bind us together. Yet, as we navigate the vastness of the internet and social media, it’s hard not to ask: Is the crochet community, or even the internet as a whole, destined to be toxic? Can we eliminate online bullying and foster a truly healthy and supportive crochet business community?
There’s that lack of connection, lack of story line, and lack of connection to the craft … When that happens, the community as a whole starts valuing engagement over valuing that connection and that shared history that we all have as lovers of the craft … So there is a sort of cultural revolution happening, and we get to decide if it’s headed in a positive or negative direction, and then we get to decide how we’re going to respond to that.
-Pam Grice, the Crochetpreneur
Eliminating Online Bullying to Cultivate a Supportive Crochet Community
Let’s start with a reality check. Social media platforms are designed to amplify engagement, and sadly, nothing drives engagement quite like drama and negativity. Algorithms reward inflammatory content, encouraging a cycle where creators might sell their integrity for likes, shares, and comments.
This isn’t unique to crochet; it’s a cultural phenomenon. But in a space where we should be celebrating our shared love of the craft, it’s disheartening to see a culture of criticism, gossip, and shaming take root. Listen, watch, or read below to learn what actionable steps you can to move the community in a positive direction. 👇
Toxic Behaviors in the Crochet Business Community
If you’ve been on certain platforms, you’ve likely seen it firsthand. You’ve seen creators attacked for their appearance, their voice, or even the way they hold a hook. You’ve seen ageism, where older crafters—the very custodians of this art—are ridiculed or excluded. It’s a bullying culture that masquerades as inclusivity but, in truth, thrives on exclusion and hurt. Perhaps you’ve even hesitated to post your work, fearing that you’ll become the next target of a toxic mob. It’s heartbreaking, and it has to stop.
The crochet community has changed over the years. What was once predominantly older generations passing down their skills and stories has now broadened, with younger crafters joining through platforms like YouTube and TikTok. While this diversity has brought fresh energy and innovation, it’s also shifted the values of the community. The deep connection to craft, history, and artistry has, in some cases, been replaced by a focus on personal gain, instant gratification, and online clout.
You’ve likely noticed the rise of “Mean Girl Syndrome”—a behavior rooted in insecurity and comparison. This is where groups form cliques to exclude and bully others, projecting their fears and weaknesses outward. It’s not confined to high school; it’s something that can occur at any age, and it’s wreaking havoc in spaces meant to be collaborative and kind. What makes this phenomenon even more insidious is the victim mentality that often accompanies it. Bullies demand sympathy when they’re called out, all while continuing their harmful behavior.
Why Do Crocheters Engage in Online Bullying?
So, why do people engage in this toxicity? It’s often a mix of societal factors. We’ve grown disconnected from history and storytelling, undervaluing traditions and creativity. There’s also a pervasive entitlement—a reluctance to take responsibility or put in the effort to learn and grow. When this entitlement meets the anonymity and amplification of social media, it creates a perfect storm for toxic behavior.
But here’s the good news: You have the power to create change. A healthy community isn’t a pipe dream; it’s a possibility that requires intentionality and effort. It starts with shared values and a sense of purpose. In a positive crochet community, kindness, generosity, inclusivity, and mutual respect should be the norm. Conflict doesn’t disappear, but it’s handled constructively, with psychological safety and open communication at the forefront.
Imagine a space where members celebrate each other’s successes, collaborate rather than compete, and practice accountability and generosity. Strong leadership, clear boundaries, and a focus on connection make this possible. These aren’t lofty ideals; they’re attainable goals that require each of us to monitor and nurture the norms of our community.
Actionable Steps to Eliminate Online Bullying in the Crochet Community
If you’re wondering how to start, here are some actionable steps:
1. Reflect Before Commenting
Before you post a comment, take a moment to reflect. Does your input add value? Is it kind and constructive? If you’re upset, consider taking 24 hours before responding. Often, stepping away helps you avoid saying something you’ll regret.
2. Assume Positive Intent
When you see something that doesn’t sit right, assume the person behind it had good intentions. Misunderstandings happen, and you don’t always have the full context. Give others the benefit of the doubt until you have all the facts.
3. Avoid Gossip and Jumping to Conclusions
If someone shares a one-sided narrative, resist the urge to join the mob. Remember that every story has multiple sides, and the loudest voice isn’t always the most truthful. Stay curious, ask questions, and refrain from spreading unverified information.
4. Support Integrity
Be the kind of person who uplifts others. Celebrate their wins, encourage their growth, and stand against bullying and exclusion. If you see someone being targeted, reach out to them with kindness. Sometimes, a simple message of support can make all the difference.
5. Leave Toxic Spaces
If a group or platform fosters negativity and drama, don’t hesitate to walk away. Your peace of mind and well-being are more important than staying in a space that doesn’t align with your values. Seek out communities that prioritize positivity and growth.
6. Foster Positivity in Your Own Circles
Whether you run a Facebook group, manage a YouTube channel, or simply engage in social media, you have the ability to set the tone. Promote kindness, constructive feedback, and mutual respect. By modeling these behaviors, you’ll inspire others to follow suit.
Social media might amplify conflict, but it can also amplify kindness and connection. The ripple effect of your actions can influence not just your immediate circle but the broader community. When you choose to nurture positivity, you help create a culture where creativity and camaraderie thrive.
Nurturing a Positive Crochet Community
Ultimately, a healthy crochet community is one that values artistry, collaboration, and shared history. It’s a space where everyone—regardless of age, skill level, or background—feels welcome and supported. This vision isn’t just possible; it’s within reach. But it requires all of us to take responsibility for our actions and our impact.
So let’s make crochet kind. Let’s be the voices of encouragement, the advocates for integrity, and the builders of a community we’re proud to be part of. Together, we can turn the tide against toxicity and create a space that truly reflects the beauty and creativity of our craft.
Join Our Positive Crochet Business Community
If you are looking for a positive crochet community, come join us over on the Crochet Business Chat Facebook group. You will find a group of passionate, driven, motivated, and supportive crochet business owners. Together, we learn and enjoy peer-to-peer networking and solution-focused discussions without drama.
